Yesterday was my birthday, spent in Boston. I walked into a venerable bar, an institution of the town. I did not have time to sit and have a thousand birthday drinks, so I decided I would have one, sublime and perfect, at the most ancient and lovely place that would not need a reservation.
I was nervous that my money would not green or I would never get the attention of the bartender but we sat down at this place in all its old world glory and ordered drinks. I could have named the place, photographed the drink but in the moment, I decided not to.
It was not just the taste but the knowledge these drinks( pricy as they were with a tip befitting the absolute artisan that made them) were paid for by a book that paid out its advance. I have good friends, a home, a partner that loves me, proof nice things don’t elude me in life.
So with another year behind me, I took a daytook to commit to nice things in all of their manifestations. Thinking of this drink makes me cry and I tell myself that next year, I shall order a second at the very same place. I have for years looked in the mirror and saw only failure. How can that be?
I have good friends, a partner that loves me, a career that is growing, a mind that is knitting back together thanks to intense therapy. I can photograph the next nice drink instead.
In my journey to wellness, I also often forget to take pictures. I've spent so much of my life dissociating, but now I don't want to risk breaking my focus on the moment by trying to capture it, so I often forget to take pictures. Sounds like we're in a similar place. I'm glad you're writing on Substack and doing well. Also, I can't help but envision this unnamed bar as Cheers, and now I can't unsee you inserted among those old television friends.
That's delightful. I still have yet to see The Bull and Finch, which inspired the show and would have been a short walk from our Air B n B. You’re definitely right about how Instagram and intrusive thoughts are definitely not friends. It's wonderful hearing from you. Are you doing Killercon?